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Dear Bossip: I’m Conflicted – I’m In Love With My Man But He’s Locked Up & I Have Feelings For My BFF, A Girl

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Dear Bossip,

I have a boyfriend and we’ve been together 8 months, but he’s been locked up 4 of those months.

I’ve been by his side every day since. He still has 12 more months to go. I do plan on being there for him. I don’t plan on going anywhere. Things are starting to change though. He’s always asking for money, which he’s my man and I don’t mind giving him anything he needs, but at the same time, hell, I have my life and my own bills that are going to get paid first and foremost.

Just like other guys in jail he says when he gets out we’re getting married and going to start a family together. I’m moving to New Orleans in the next few days for work and he’s locked up in Alabama. I want him to come to me when he gets out so we can get our lives together. If God plans it! At the end of the day, I’m like do I want to really do this or not. I’m making plans on getting us a house together and starting things for us. I’m nowhere near my selfish self right now. I’m actually thinking about him and us. Our lives.

Honestly, I have cheated on him once since he’s been locked up. That was just a one-time fling though. Actually, a waste of time because the d**k wasn’t even good at all. I’m not a cheater and haven’t cheated since. I haven’t even talked to another guy. I really do love him with all of my heart. I’m in love with him. We were friends 5 five years prior to getting together, but I’m thinking now is this really what I want.

All of my friends judge me and say I’m better than that being with an incarcerated dude, but you can’t help who you love. He wants to leave the streets alone and get his life on track. But, it’s still that should I question in my head. My heart, emotions, and love is in this dude. I cry for him because I love him. I’m the most unemotional person I know and for me to care and cry for him, It’s crazy!

The story isn’t over, there’s more. I also have this best friend. She’s a girl that I honestly have bi-sexual feelings for her. I’ve never liked women. I’ve liked d**k all my life and I always will. I’ve never tried a “bi,” but my best friend it’s something about her that I love. I am sexually attracted to her for some reason. I tell her everything about my life. She’s my best friend that’s what we do. The feelings I have I don’t know where the “F” they came from, and I don’t know what to do about it. She doesn’t know what she wants in life. I think she has bi- curious feelings too. She’s never had a boyfriend. She’s never had sex and she’s 23 years old. She acts lesbionic, so flags are being thrown.

I don’t know whether to tell her how I really feel or just let it go. I have in few words asked would she let a girl freak her and in short words she eased by the answer. I don’t know what to do about these 2 situations. I’m in love with my man and in bi-curios love with my BFF. I’m only 22 years old with a bright future and I don’t want to mess it up. Help me! – Ms. Confused

Dear Ms. Confused,

Chile, SMDH! I….sigh….Why, oh, dear lawd, why?!?!

Someone please explain or tell me what is “Lesbionic,” and if that is a lesbian who is bionic?

Ma’am, I simply can’t with you.

See, this is why the mind is a terrible thing to waste. You are so focused on the wrong things, and unfortunately you will continue to repeat this pattern in your life over and over again. And, this perpetual cycle will hinder you, and prevent you from seeking your full potential.

To be very clear: You are a sexual deviant. I can tell by your letter, and the underlying tone of which it reeks. The terms and phrases around sex, sexuality, and the performance of sex says a lot about you, and your preoccupation with it. I’m just pointing that out, first.

You claim that you’re in a “relationship” with someone who is locked up; a man in prison who has been convicted of a crime. And, you’re bragging about staying by his side, putting money on his books, and entertaining the idea of starting a family with him. This same man who has another year to do on his sentence, yet, you’ve already cheated on him with some other dude, and are thinking of sleeping with your BFF to satisfy your bi-curious tendencies? Some ride or die chick you turned out to be! SMDH! Someone has left the gate open because the donkeys and jackasses are running rampant.

First, let’s be clear about something: You are not in a relationship with him. If he’s been locked up for four months out of the eight months you’ve been together, then, boo boo, a relationship you do not have. How the hell can you claim a relationship with someone and half of the time they’ve been in prison? And, it’s only been months? Chile, your grandmother needs to get a good switch from the bushes and wear you out! Sit your a** down and have several seats on the short yellow bus. The hell is wrong with you!?! And, put your damn helmet on. I don’t want you messing up the leather on the seats.

Next, your entire letter is all about sex. The whack sex you had when you cheated on your “boyfriend,” and the hopeful sex you want to engage in with your BFF, who is a girl. Why are you so focused on sex and not school? Why not spend the energy on something more productive like really working on you, changing your life, healing yourself, and furthering yourself with school, or some other positive outlets? Sex is all you are concerned and thinking about. You need to get to the root of why you think sex is equated with like or love. And, why are you using sex as an escape mechanism. What are you running from? What are you trying to escape? Why are you using sex to deal with the emotional and mental problems you have?

Yes, you have mental and emotional problems. If you think you have a relationship with a man who is locked up, then something is wrong with you mentally. You don’t think you’re a cheater, yet, you cheated on him and he’s only been locked up for four months. Yeah, that is something mental. Then, you are having sexual thoughts and desires for your BFF, and you don’t know where they came from. Then, you claim you love your “boyfriend,” and will be by his side and you are not going anywhere, yet, your confusion about whether or not if you really want to be with him, and if you should do this with him are clear signs that something is wrong with you mentally and emotionally.

But, let me back up a minute. You are moving to New Orleans for your job, but you want your locked up boyfriend to come live with you once he is released in a year. You are going to find a house, and get things ready and in order for him because you said you are thinking about, “our lives.” You ain’t got no damn life together! And, why would you be getting things in order for a man who needs to be doing for himself? Chile, we can all see how this is going to end, and where it’s going. You’re going to end up as another tragic hood rat story gone wrong.

And, look here, sweetie, you contradict yourself twice in the letter because you say, “Do I really want to do this or not?” And, “But I’m really thinking is this really what I want.” Yet, you claim you love him. Uhm, Sha’quashay De-jon-ay Jenkins, you don’t love him. You don’t want him. He just sexed you real good, and you’re not sure if you can hold out until he gets out.

In the meantime, you’re considering jumping on your BFF because you can’t explain your sexual desires for her. Do you see and notice the pattern of sexual deviancy that is playing out in your life? You are preoccupied with sex. You claim that you’ve liked, “d**k all my life, and always will.” And, yet, you are interested in lesbian sex with your BFF. So, no matter how you get it, where you get it, and whom you get it from, sex fulfills something for you.

What’s missing in your life? What are you hoping to fulfill? What emptiness do you feel, and you want to fill?

Find yourself a spiritual counselor, and a spiritual institution, and begin to spiritually cleanse yourself. Also, find a therapist, or locate a counselor you can speak with about your life, your past, and what happened to you as a child. There is a bigger issue at hand, and you need to get to the root of this in order to heal yourself, and the preoccupation with your sexual thoughts and ideation. Then, enroll in school, further your education, and leave the boyfriend in jail alone. He cannot do anything for you. He is there for another year. Why would you send him your hard earned money? He put himself in there, then let him figure out how to take care of himself while he’s there. He is not going to get out and marry you. And, he is not going to move to New Orleans to be with you. Trust me when I tell you this. In regards to your BFF, leave her alone. You are projecting your sexual desires onto her. She has not told you, or confirmed she is a lesbian. Nor has she initiated any sexual advances toward you. Therefore, instead of assuming she is a lesbian, or bi-sexual, you need to be working on yourself and figuring out why you are having these sexual thoughts and desires for her. – Terrance Dean

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Kelly Clarkson is NOT a Lesbian!

Shocking, right? Almost everyone thought that Kelly Clarkson was a lesbian. Sure, she would always deny it, but it sure seemed like she was. Maybe it was just because of her angry love songs and the fact that she has never really been pictured with anybody. But now, we finally know that Kelly Clarkson is a straight woman.

Kelly told a Toronto radio station on March 6 that she has a, “new boyfriend” and now we have a name! Us Weekly is reporting that the first Idol winner is dating Brandon Blackstock, the 35 year old stepson of Reba McEntire and a Nashville-based talent manager. “Before Brandon, Kelly had a really rough time with love. Brandon is just what she needed” a source claimed.

Well, good for her! Hopefully this relationship is the real deal. I don’t think I can take turning on the radio and hearing another break-up anthem. Kelly Clarkson is NOT a Lesbian! Kelly Clarkson is NOT a Lesbian! Kelly Clarkson is NOT a Lesbian!


Rosie O’Donnell Attended Secret Lesbian Parties?

Rosie O’Donnell was on, “Watch What Happens Live” and shared some pretty strange news. Rosie started to talk about the good ol’ days when she had her own daytime talk show and somehow the conversation made its way to Rosie talking about secret Hollywood lesbian parties.   When we were young there were lots of kind of big, secret lesbian parties when nobody was out. It would be like Melissa Etheridge would throw a party and K.D. [Lang] would be there, and I would be there, and Ellen would be there, But you know who would be there, was Sarah Gilbert and I was totally flipped out because she was like 19 at the time. And I would say to Ellen, ‘Get her out of here, it’s illegal,’ — not that there were like naked women and sex toys everywhere. But we were sort of a little bit more of a clique when we were younger.   How disappointing. You hear, “Secret Lesbian Parties” and you picture a bunch of college chicks having naked pillow fights. When in reality, it’s just Ellen DeGeneres and Rosie O’Donnell hanging out with other beefy looking lesbians. Gross. This is how I know the world is going downhill, when lesbian parties are not a turn on anymore. I just picture them all in this crowded room, eating baked beans and scratching their armpit hair. The room probably smelled like Fritos and ranch dressing…I feel sick. You can look at the pictures below, if you like torturing yourself.

Rihanna is going to Rehab? Katy Perry to the Rescue? OH NO!

I hope the following news isn’t true. I’d hate for Rihanna to go into rehab for a few months, how would we get hot pictures of her? I doubt they allow slutty outfits and cameras into rehab facilities. A source told Star magazine the following… “Katy begged Rihanna to take some time off and get therapy. Rihanna’s been running on empty. And rather than resting, she’s drinking and clubbing until the early hours of the morning. Rihanna’s been self-medicating with booze ever since her split [with Chris Brown], and it’s not getting better. She calls Katy in tears, saying how down she is and that her life’s controlled by her label. She just wants a loving boyfriend. Russell Brand, a recovering addict himself, has expressed concern. “He told Katy that she had to step in because Rihanna is on a very slippery slope.” The source goes onto say Rihanna agrees she needs to stop because she doesn’t want to be the next Amy Winehouse. Well, that is kind of sad, huh? Not the story, but the fact that all I got out of it was an awesome Katy Perry and Rihanna lesbian fantasy. I am a bad person. Rihanna, don’t ever stop giving us sexy pictures to stare at. If you have a drinking problem, please get it under control. Don’t jeopardize your hotness. Examples below…

Amber Heard making out with her lesbian lover

Here’s Amber Heard outside Figaro Cafe in Los Feliz, Los Angeles on Wednesday night making out with a brunette while engaging in some Nazi salute at the same time which clearly is not what I expected (in my fantasies there’s always heavy breast grabbing), but since I’m eager to learn the nuances of lesbiantry, I think I’d make a perfect assistant if they needed someone to hold a flag or detangle their hair or wipe out the lipstick from various body parts.

FYI, the girl she’s making out with is not her girlfriend of three years, Tasya Van Ree, and since the two still follow each other on Twitter I’m going to go ahead and assume Tasya sent Amber out to find a beautiful brunette and convince her to come home with her so they can have a romantic threesome in a hot tub. I think it’s time for popcorn, si?

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Denise Richards Had a Lesbian Experience With an Unnamed Celebrity

Denise Richards has written a book called “The Real Girl Next Door” that came out stla Tuesday, well by written I mean she put her name on the cover. So seeing how she is a glorified writer now, that means she must do that whole publicity tour thing, which is why today she was at the the Sirius Radio Station in New York City to be on the Howard Stern show. Where she played the always awesome “Sexy Lesbian Stuff” card from the stack of cards her publicist gave her.

Via The Huffington Post:

While an obviously piqued Stern attempts to dig out the identity details – “I’m going to name everyone in Hollywood!” — Richards remains coy, saying only that “You would know who she is.”
“I just met her through friends and work and stuff… I was just curious. We were curious,” she tells Stern.
“She was a girly-girl. She’s beautiful.”

Well, yeah… Neve Campbell in Wild Things. We all saw it happen. Wait… “celebrity?” Oh right, well in that case I’m going to go with Jenna Jameson, because I’m sure there aren’t a whole lot of people (men or woman) that haven’t railed her by now. I gather this information both from her former profession and from reading her book, “How to Make Love Like a Porn Star”, where she names everyone she has porked. In fact that book requires a forklift to get out of the bookstore because it lists them all.

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Alison Brie and Gillian Jacobs in GQ Magazine

Last month, GQ magazine got Alison Brie and Gillian Jacobs from Community to do this naughty and sexy photoshoot for them, and to the best of our knowledge, the GQ issue featuring these photos isn’t even out yet. But hey, that’s not going to stop these photos from leaking onto the internet. Because, when you put two girls from the internet’s favorite TV show into lingerie, make them do sexy poses…you can expect to find those pictures on forums here and there almost immediately.

Not that GQ minds, now they can get filthy rich selling laminated versions of this issue.


Kendra Wilkinson Has Another Sex Tape, a Lesbian One This Time

Prepare yourself and your penis for another Kendra Wilkinson sex tape. In this one she’s munching on a vajayjay though. reports that Wilkinson, whose sex tape with high school boyfriend Justin Frye hit the airwaves in May 2010, is in another sex tape from the same era — this time a lesbian sex scene — with high school friend Taryn Ryan. The video is shot by Frye himself.

And although Kendra publicly assailed the release of the first sex tape, as exclusively reported she secretly signed off on the deal and received a hefty payday.

Now, she stands to profit again from her newfound status as a reality porn star.

“Kendra and Taryn started fooling around and then Kendra wanted the light turned off,” the source told “But the camera that was recording them had night vision, so it looks like the Paris Hilton porn tape. Everything is completely clear.

“The girls are laughing at first, and the guys are encouraging them to kiss each other. They started kissing while giggling and then things got hotter.”

Well the first sex tape made her a mountain of cash, so yeah, I can see why she would sign off on the second one. I guess she and Hank sat down with their financial planner and considered that Hank has reached the average career expectancy in the NFL and may not have a job next year, and Kendra has a library of sex tapes to make a few million from, and decided that in order to pay the mortgage next year they need another half million Vivid deal. Besides, she’s gotta keep her “fame” intact somehow. Not everyone can become famous by being the half Governor of Alaska.

Kendra’s two sex tape partners, Taryn and Justin:


Natalie Portman Reveals That Lesbian Sex is a Great Crowd Pleaser

So how do you get all the boys and girls to come see your movie about a schizophrenic girl with mommy and social issues dance a bit of ballet? Lesbian sex my friend, some good old vag on vag action. That is according to Natalie Portman anyways, when asked about her movie Black Swan. Mind you it was a tongue-in-cheek statemen,t but this is one of those comments where the intended humor is much less obvious when you are reading it as opposed to hearing it.

“Everyone was so worried about who was going to want to see this movie. I remember them being like ‘How do you get girls to a thriller?’ And the answer is a lesbian scene. Everyone wants to see that”

Confession: I would have seen this movie anyways since I dig Darren Aronofsky, but finding out it had a lesbian sex scene involving Natalie Portman AND Mina Kunis upped my incentive to see it ten fold. So you hit the nail on the head about this dyke, Natalie.

I was also just happy to see a lesbian scene that actually semi-graphically depicted a lesbian sex act. Most lesbian scenes in movies involve women kissing and rolling around and vague under the cover touching, which leads to lots of “Exactly how do girls have sex with each other?” questions. An answer to which you just can’t really get in porn, unless lesbians really do only go for the double ended anal dildos and anal beads the size of baseballs. Humm, just realised that most lesbian porn involves a lot more anal play than vaginal… odd.

Lesbians however, reported that unicorn on unicorn sex scenes was what drew them to see movies.


The Scene Where Mila Kunis Goes Down on Natalie Portman in Black Swan

So Black Swan is a movie about swans and ballet or some other shit like that, I don’t really know, nor do I really need to because everyone is raving about it for one reason and one reason only. Mila Kunis munching on Natalie Portman’s vagina. A scene that can be seen here below and what a sight to behold it is. I was moved to tears. No doubt the director re-shot this scene over 20 times before calling it a wrap and waltzing to the trailer to explode all over the walls.

Anyways watch the scene and then thank me for just saveing you $12.

Actually, I heard this movie was incredible, so you should probably actually go see it.

EDIT: Every video we find keeps getting pulled down by the men in black. So here are some screen caps from the scene courtesy of Egotastic! The pics really don’t do the video justice, but oh well, if what ever video source we are using above isn’t working for you at the moment then this will just have to do:


Amber Heard is a Lesbian, a Smoking Hot Lesbian

Uber hottie Amber Heard who you’ll know from appearing for a whole 5 minutes in films like Zombieland and Pineapple Express and who will soon appear as Jonny Depp’s love interest in ‘The Rum Diaries,’ just came out of the closet with her girlfriend, photographer Tasya van Ree, whom she has been carpet munching with since 2008.

Speaking to the gay rights-focused entertainment site, Heard said coming out was both a personal and moral triumph.

“I think when I became aware of my role in the media, I had to ask myself an important question ‘Am I part of the problem?’” she told the the website. “And I think that when millions and millions of hard-working, tax paying Americans are denied their rights and denied their equality you have to ask yourself what are the factors that are an epidemic problem and that’s what this is.

“Injustice can never be stood for. It always must be fought against and I just was sick of it being a problem,” Heard said, adding, “I personally think that if you deny something or if you hide something you’re inadvertently admitting it’s wrong. I don’t feel like I’m wrong.”

As for van Ree? “She’s so beautiful. I mean, you’d have to be crazy not to want to go out with her!”

We have no problem with this gorgeous girl being a lesbian, as long as we can watch.

Props to her for enjoying the taste of the ‘gina and looking like the type of lesbian that the porn industry has spent years selling us. Justin Bieber will be a happy little girl knowing she now has a chance with Amber.

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Uber hottie Amber Heard who you’ll know from films like Zombieland and Pineapple Express and who will soon appear as Jonny Depp’s love interest in ‘The Rum Diaries,’ just came out of the closet with her girlfriend, photographer Tasya van Ree, whom she has been carpet munching with since 2008.

Amy Winehouse likes to ruin penises AND vaginas


As it turns out, Amy Winehouse is into lesbo sex. The news, although not surprising as Amy would most likely blow a goat if you stuck a bong in its ass comes after revelations her ex-hubby who is now her fiancee again, just cheated on her with a pre-op tranny who looks exactly like her (in Blake’s defense, he thought it was Amy…the tranny was also sporting cauliflower-sized warts on his penis and water balloons at bursting point for a chest)…just keeping it classy, Wino-style as usual.

Via the always dependable NewsOfTheWorld (hey, it exposed Tiger Wood’s slut bonanza, so everything they write must be true…EVEN that story with the three-headed alien being the daddy of Octomom’s spawns):

SOUL superstar AMY WINEHOUSE has revealed that she sings both ways.

Yep, the Back To Black troublemaker has told friends she is BISEXUAL.

The revelation (although I think we all had our suspicions) comes just days after Amy heard rumours that her ex-hubby BLAKE FIELDER-CIVIL had a relationship with a pre-op transsexual.

Wacky Wino told close friends: “So what? I like girls as well. I have had relationships with other women but that doesn’t mean I don’t still love Blake.

“There is something about being with a woman that is very satisfying. I don’t care what people think about me being bi – I do what feels good.”

Despite this, Winehouse, 26, is said to be furious with Blake, 27, over stories linking him to the male Wino lookalike called Mia.

She admitted: “It is embarrassing. I knew this girl. She used to stand outside my house all the time.

“I even spoke to her on the phone telling her to keep away from Blake because he told me she was hassling him.

“He can’t keep doing this to me. But I don’t judge him for it – everyone has sexual desires.”

And last night, a friend of Amy’s confirmed that the singer was bisexual.

Speaking with Amy’s consent, they told me that Wino loves to check out beautiful women – and even has a crush on X Factor judge CHERYL COLE.

“There is nothing restrained about Amy’s sexuality,” said the pal.

“She doesn’t hold back and says what she feels. She often talks about other women. Her favourite is Cheryl, who she really fancies. Most women can appreciate another woman’s beauty but Amy definitely takes that to the next level.”

Despite his apparent links with Mia AND secretly proposing to brunette Sarah Aspin, Blake is still The One for Amy. The friend confirmed she is likely to end up back with Blake.

The source said: “Right now, she’s absolutely devastated. She’s had a horrible few days and doesn’t know what to do. But she certainly hasn’t said for sure that the engagement is off.

“Whether she’s deluded or not, Amy genuinely believes her and Blake are a fairytale who will end up together one day.” Amy’s crazy sex life has been well documented.

During the promotion of her last album in 2006, she told of her new tattoos of naked women and said: “I like pin-up girls. I’m more of a boy than a girl.”


Lindsay Lohan’s walk of shame


Lindsay Lohan has made herself an easy target for the pap’s as of late, skulking out of another carpet munching marathon at Samantha Ronson’s pad. Looks like Lindz didn’t even have enough time to stuff her rack back into her black top before Sam shoved her out the door.

Maybe all that chasing after comedian/drug sponge Russel Brand’s affections put DJ SamRon into a bad mood.  Desperate Lindsay tried to come onto renowned womanizer Russell at Diddy’s white party during the Fourth of July weekend:

“Lindsay is a very good-looking girl and she is used to getting what she wants,” says a source.  “Russell has been on her radar for a while now but he doesn’t want anything to do with her. He finds her constant craving for attention and her heavy drinking a turn-off. It’s not like he is short of female attention anyway.”

Sam better keep an eye on her woman or Lindsay’s fireplace may move on to a new pile o’ wood.